Friends are an important part of our growth as Christ followers. In fact, the bible is explicit in the sentiment that we need to have a support system: “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
If you’re anything like me, you sometimes fall into that trap of not feeling like a “good enough” friend.
Maybe it’s been a few months weeks since you’ve reached out to your friends. You’ve cycled through feeling irritated because you said you would text, but then you forgot and now it’s too late. Or annoyed at being the one who always reaches out and always tries to stay connected.
You’ve justified these feelings by thinking “well, she hasn’t called me either”. Friends, I’ve been there.
But here’s the thing, friendships are a lot like intimate relationships – a relationship between 2 people. And I’ve come to realize in order to maintain friendships, we have to be intentional about working on them, the same way we’d work at an intimate relationship. So here are 10 Bible Driven Ways to Be a Good Friend
10 Bible Driven Ways to Be a Good Friend
#1 – Love Your Friends
“Love one another with brotherly affection.” (Romans 12:10)
“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8)
I think this is the most important way to be a good friend. Without this foundation, I don’t think any of the other methods matter. Even Jesus, when asked about the commandments said the greatest commandment is to love (Matthew 22:37-38). Without love, there is no desire to actually be a good friend. But what exactly does it meant it mean to “love”? See 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
#2 – Pray for Your Friends
“I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy…” (Philippians 1:3-4)
Praying for your friends is such an awesome way to show love, whether they know you’re doing it or not. I think that when you pray for someone else, it’s like you’re saying “I may not be able to help you out, but I know someone greater than I am, who can. And because I love you, I’m going to ask Him to step in”.