Is Watching Porn as a Married Couple Sinful?

Is watching porn as a married couple sinful? | socialhermit.meThe post below is not an answer to the question asked in the title. Rather, it is a flow of my thoughts and questions that have come up as a result of these thoughts. I hope once you’re done reading, you’ll leave a comment sharing your stance on the topic and get a dialogue going.

The other day, I followed a conversation on twitter which in summary was a married woman saying she was trying to stop watching porn for religious reasons. Someone then asked her: Is watching porn as a married couple sinful?

I remember reading that and wondering what the answer to that was. After all, in the sanctity of marriage, aren’t all sexual acts allowed? All day long, I thought about it and as I tried to come up with an answer, three bible verses kept coming up in my head.

* “All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up. – 1 Corinthians 10:23

Watching porn with your spouse might not be sinful, but how does it build you up? I mean, porn in most cases is fornication and isn’t watching porn taking part, or at the very least, sanctioning the act? You and your spouse might be married and therefore free to have sex, but if the porn being watched isn’t between married couples, then, they are committing fornication. Fornication is clearly stated in the Book of Life as a sin, but I wonder, where does sanctioning it rank? And if you’re ok with watching fornication, then aren’t you in turn sending a message to the world that you believe fornication is ok?

Right on the heels of that thought I think, what if the porn is between a married couple? And if it is, why have they chosen to share their private moments with the world and what was their intention? Other than making money, the usual reason for porn is to incite lust. So where does that leave us?

* So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. – 1 Corinthians 10:31

How does watching porn, whether within the confines of marriage or without, glorify God? What exactly does it add to you and your spouse? And as a single woman, that is a genuine question not a rhetorical one. If as a Christian couple your sex life is on the rocks, wouldn’t it be more prudent to pray about the issue and seek sex therapy as opposed to resulting to watching people committing fornication?

* For it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy” (Lev 11:44). – 1 Peter 1:16

God has called us as His children to be Holy. It wasn’t a suggestion from our Heavenly Father, it was a command. So I think about porn and think, would God watch this? Afterall, if He has called my spouse and I to be holy like Him, doesn’t that insinuate that things that are distasteful to Him should also be distasteful to us? Obviously, Jesus wasn’t married, however, if he was sitting in a bedroom with you and your spouse while you watch porn, what are the chances of Him, realistically, staying in that room with you guys?

So, is watching porn as a married couple sinful? What do you think? Leave a comment, share your thoughts, I’d really like to know.